How Praise and Rewards Can Be as Damaging as Punishment

Posted On: 5/7/2018 3:03 PM

Gold star on paper: Well done!Two sides of the same coin:
"While it may seem more loving to entice children with carrots than to beat them with sticks, Grille argues both punishment and rewards accomplish the same result – reducing the relationship between parent and child to one of the controller and the controlled.

"Same goes for teachers who take away recess for talking too much during class or give gold stars for sitting still and listening silently. Neither the punishment nor the reward is delivered out of unconditional love or support for the child to develop into whomever he or she wants to become. Both are attempts to manipulate, control and mold the child into what his parents, teachers, government and future employers want him to become."

Read more at Return To Now - March 31, 2017


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